A few years back during a real, raw moment of impulsivity, I was schooled in the art of “mirrors”.
There are theories and schools of thought that tell us that each person we meet shows us things about ourselves. When someone triggers us, it is never about them, but about something we need to look at in our own self. They are mirroring something in ourselves that we need to see. The journey to master our energy and emotions is usually not smooth.
The People People We Encounter Offer of ChoicePoint Opportunities
I understood this concept in my head. But until a particular situation showed up for me, I realized I had never fully owned it 100%. How did I finally understand it? This personally activated me in a way that made me feel really horrible.
I acted just like her. Disheartening, ugh. It was an emotionally charged situation. I showed up in a way I did not like and instantly regretted it.
We Are All Human and We All Make Mistakes
Her behavior was not a mistake, it was how she showed up often. But for me, it felt like a mistake at the time. I know now that I have that aspect inside of me, but I choose not to feed it.
What I saw in her and how I responded offered me a choice. I could beat myself up for the unbecoming behavior, I could ignore it, or I could intentionally change my own behavior. I chose the latter.
It works both ways. It’s not just what we don't like in someone or are triggered by. The same exists when we recognize the good, the beauties, and wondrous positive qualities we see in others. These aspects too we must own. Weare these things we see also.
Mirror Mirror: A poem about Reflection and Growth
Mirror Mirror in every being
What is it that I am not seeing?
Mirror Mirror you don't just glow
You reflect the truth where few dare to go
Mirror Mirror You can be tricky
There are flashes of beauty jumbled in with the icky
Mirror Mirror Let me truly see
The things I need to finally be free
Mirror Mirror Your truth is not always kind
But I do dare, so the gifts I find
Mirror Mirror thank you so
for without you, I could not grow
If you have any type of reflection practice or when you find yourself triggered by or in admiration of ....consider the sentiments in this poem.
Ask yourself, when you look in the mirror through another person~
- What gifts are being reflected back to me?
- Can I change something in me that I do not like and grow from it?
- Do I recognize what I see inside of myself? How does that make me feel?
As you catch glimpses of yourself in the mirrors of another soul, I encourage you to take moments to reflect to aid you on your journey of self-mastery.